Mod bod

Some women give birth and their bodies return to pre baby shape. By that I mean they don’t have saggy or wrinkled stomachs. For some reason that wrinkly stomach is the most telltale sign of pregnancy and childbirth. It is also the reason for a lot of insecurity and body shaming. The wrinkly stomach is often looked down upon as disgusting and unwanted. It is one of the most hated things about the postpartum body. Women pray they won’t have that stomach after giving birth. I was one of those women who hoped and wished! I just knew my stomach would return to normal. Nope! I’ve determined that was a lie! To my horror my stomach was wrinkly after one pregnancy and one baby. Each pregnancy after I would hope my skin would magically tighten again. My stomach is flat but the saggy skin still announces itself every time I take a shower or get undressed. At first it made me upset. It made me sad. It made me disappointed in my body. But why? We all know why! Women are painted in this image that isn’t reality. It’s a must be perfect or nothing society. We glorify women who bodies look unscathed by pregnancy while putting down those who bodies do what bodies do and change! We glorify the snap back. We say moms let themselves go after giving birth. The truth is, your body will change. It will NEVER be the same even if you “look” the same. Your internal organs have shifted. Your uterus and cervix have stretched to great lengths to house and birth your baby.

Once I got over the skin, life ran a bit smoother. I accepted the fact that my body will never look or be the same but that doesn’t mean that it’s any less beautiful or functional.

Sex: does he make you scream?

Serious question! Does he make you scream? Are you enjoying yourself during sex?!? I ask this because studies have shown that heterosexual women have less orgasms than gay men and women. We are out here LOSING in this orgasm game and it is down right shameful. Why are we having sex if we aren’t having orgasms? Now some women say it’s for the connection, yea, yea, I get that but doesn’t getting hot and bothered, bother you when he is the only one having an orgasm?!

Many women give in to the sexual wants of their man at the sacrifice of their own desires and pleasure. That has to be one of the main reasons why we have fewer orgasms than lesbians besides that men in general don’t know what they are doing when it comes to vaginal and clitoral stimulation. Too many think inserting a penis will make you gush with pleasure( major eye roll).

Now back to my question! If you are having sex and not enjoying yourself something has to change! Is stress causing you to not be able to fully relax? Is carrying most of the household on your shoulders making you want sleep more than sex? Is your partner’s lack of concern turning you completely off? Is your partner not able to keep up with your sexual appetite? Does he have erectile problems(he needs a dr!)?

When you lay down with your man you should be excited. It should not feel like a chore and if it does, y’all are doing it (or he is) all wrong. Have sex when you are in the mood. Never in the mood? Find out what would help you enjoy sex more. Sex should be enjoyable for you! You as a woman deserve a full and fabulous sex life. Don’t settle for bad sex while your mate is having the time of his life. Teach him how to please you, so he can make you scream😃