People almost seem insulted when a black woman is tending to her children. If you aren’t the stereotypical black mother who beats her kids to death and calls them everything under the sun, I’m here to let you know everyone is going to have an issue with your parenting, even other black folks. It’s quite sad. My children have acted out in public several times and by acting out I mean crying. Now crying is normal for children but for some strange reason people think children aren’t supposed to cry. Some people even think toddlers and infants cry to manipulate people. Let that sink in. Now this is where it gets great. I’m a sahm and usually when I’m out with the kids I’m around other sahm’s and I’m also the only black parent. Yay!!🙄. For some reason whenever my child or children get fussy I can feel eyes staring holes into my back. I often look around to see parents staring at me, waiting for me to spank my child. When I respond calmly or ignore the behavior and leave the area, shock is all across everyone’s face. To see a black mother love on her children confuses folks. It makes them uncomfortable because it shatters the stupid thoughts they willfully believe. For some reason these people don’t understand that black people are not monolithic.
Being a good black mother is revolutionary because we are supposed to be incapable of raising anything other than thugs and whores. When you hug your crying baby you are doing something you are not supposed to. When you respond to conflicts with love and gentleness, instead of a belt you are doing something ground breaking. When you speak life and positivity into your children, the world just might split. When you don’t publicly shame your child on social media, you my dear, are changing the world. Haven’t you noticed how many negative parenting is often met with such high praises but a black mother being there and standing for her children is seen as her raising weak children. Encouraging your child to apply to multiple colleges and excelling and getting accepted is seen as “obnoxious”. It’s viewed this way because society cannot accept nor believe that there are good black mothers. That the majority of us are good mothers. When you don’t fit into the box of negativity you are attacked and threatened.
Society seems to believe that good black mothers are mythical creatures. Very rarely are whole black families praised, even rarer, black mothers who openly love their children. We are often portrayed as single(another myth), evil, violent towards our children and emotional unavailable to the point that all our children join gangs. The truth is most black mothers are some of the most supportive mothers in earth. We tackle racism and sexism and still find a way to raise phenomenal children who grow into phenomenal adults.